Blue Pajamas

I’m settling into a window seat on a near empty plane when a young woman with a cloth backpack slides into the middle seat next to me. She chooses it over the empty aisle seat.

“You’re the first person I’ve ever met that likes an aisle,” I tell her glancing sideways. She nods and kind of grins.

“What do you like about it?”

Tears well up in her eyes.

“Are you afraid of flying?” I ask.

A woman wearing a low cut knit top and a baggy sweater plops into the aisle seat.

“I feel better with people around me,” she replies, sniffing back more tears.

I pat her shoulder lightly, reach into my carryon and hand her a tissue.

“Thanks,” she says and sighs.

After the drink service, the captain dims the cabin lights. I’m exhausted from days of being on at a writer’s conference. I turn my neck pillow around backward to keep my head from lolling as I snooze.

A blue LCD light beams into my eye lids. I open my eyes, and she’s re-reading an email on her phone. I can’t help but see part of the text: “…Parents in a car crash. In the hospital, in ICU. Dad probably won’t make it through the night. Get here.”

Makes me think of a similar email I received from my sister 15 years ago. My dad died before I could get to the hospital. The last time I saw him was a year prior. He stood in the front doorway wearing light blue pajamas waving goodbye to me.

I hope she gets to spend another father’s day with her dad.

As the plane begins to descend into San Diego, I reach into my bag and give her the whole pack of tissues. She has a long night ahead.

Moving to Hawaii: How long does it take to ship stuff?

Question:
My husband and I are moving to Honolulu in June. How long does it take to ship our car and furniture?

Answer:

Cars take minimum 3 weeks: one week to cross and one week at each port to load/unload. If the ports arent very busy, it could take 10 or 14 days to get your car, and Matson can estimate this for you. Your furniture should take about the same time, depending on how busy the ports are then. So three weeksfor your stuff is a safe guess. However, expect delays.

For example, my stuff took 6 weeks: one week to cross and five weeks in ports. The delay was caused by the military. The Army commandeered all civilian shipping vessels to move some troops during the time I was moving. There’s no way to anticipate such a delay, and the military can do it a any time. Still, it’s a rare occurrence and me being the optimist I am, saw the bright side: my stuff shipped later, avoiding rough seas that caused some containers to be lost overboard.

Tip:

Try using a 3-tier priority shipping system when considering how to time your move.

  1. Carry your must-haves on the plane (for me this included cherished family photos, heirlooms and back up drives).
  2. Then mail whatever is most crucial using usps flat rate boxes (I sent my hs year book, warranties, files and a few more photos).
  3. Then ship everything else insured for replacement value.

Two free real estate tools dish the data

If you’re looking to buy a house, rent in a new area or just want to know more about a neighborhood, I’ve found two online tools that provide a wealth of data for free: waslkscore.com and redfin.com

At walkscore.com, you input a US address, and their alogrithm calculates how walkable it is on a scale from 1 to 100, where 1 is out in the middle of nowhere and 100 is mid-town Manhattan. The site takes into account proximity to public transportation, grocery stores, parks, schools, churches, bars and even fitness clubs, and returns a score accordingly. I entered my new address, and my current neighborhood scored a solid walkscore of 78, which just about matches the amount of walking I do for my day-to-day activities.

My second new favorite real estate tool is the MLS powerhouse site redfin.com . It provides all the information a real estate agent should provide a prospective buyer and more. After signing up for a free account, you can browse listings by MLS number, address, neighborhood, or city. You can refine a search by a dozen or more parameters, such as price, number of bedrooms or even year built. Search results return photos, maps, descriptions and comps. It’s even possible to compare neighborhoods side by side on this site, useful for instance, if you’re relocating to a new area and want to see how it compares to your current one.

For example, I compared my former zip code with my new one. They are very similar, perhaps not so surprising, in terms of safety and demographics. The main differences are density, age and wealth. My new area is 100 times more dense, slightly older, much whiter, and more affluent than my former area, according to redfin.com. The catch to use redfin.com is that the site makes money when you to use their real estate agents, who’s services are available for a discounted fee. But so far there are no limits on browsing.